This happens all the time! Every now and then a program has a strong top team who can beat the YJ second team but not the top Blue team . Parents get their hopes up that the take over has begun but NOOOO. The YJ program is there every year. There are strong players in every program but it is a team game. Girls play for all reasons, there is no pro lacrosse for girls. Pick a program that works for you , MOSTLY your daughter that is there and not getting into trouble! Stop trying to be the YJs and just be who you are girls from all programs go to college and keep playing!
Most of all let your daughter have fun playing the game.
I have a few daughters that have played and it is about them and they give up a lot of time as do you but it was FUN.