I'll go way out on a limb here and ask this, aren't more than half the D1 lacrosse scholarship schools ones you don't want your kid to go to? There is a short list of ones you do dream of like three service academies, ivy or patriot league schools, then a few more like Notre Dame and Georgetown. If I paid private school tuitions and club dues for years and my kid went to Bryant College or Monmouth I'd be drinking heavily before noon.