They finally confirmed that the kid made a switch weeks after he did and was registered and uniformed at another club. Not condoning the email traffic, but that is the fact line and that was bad form. Not buying the I was too busy to return one of the repeated phone calls and emails bed time story. It was sleazy all around and the parents were equally at fault. If my son wanted to leave a lacrosse club, the immediate thing is to notice that club as a common courtesy, especially if the kid had been on non-paying scholarship and was given first dibs at showcase invites. My kid decides to leave an organization the next moment he would need to call and write a notice and give a thank you. I'd need to do that too. If a club lacrosse lunatic tried to engage a debate or sent one negative email, there would be no start of an email thread. Delete, permanent delete, done. This was a case of lacrosse ego divas gone wrong on both sides, and neither side looked rosy.
When we left Madlax I called and emailed the director. I explained why we were leaving and listened to all of the reasons he had for us to stay. My son wanted to stay, but, as the person paying the bills, I vetoed his wishes. There were several times in my communications with Cabell that I could have taken the bait and watched it turn into a deadspin type exchange. I resisted, which for me is not easy. In the end, I did what proved to be best for my son. Cabell was unhappy but not a monster.
He reached out to us a few months later to initiate a new round of discussions about coming back to the program. When we rebuffed the interest he went ballistic. Name calling and the like. Life goes on and it is what it is. My son is in a better place and I will not ever permit my younger boy to play for Madlax.
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