The hoco refs are generally new refs. Many haven’t learned that they shouldn’t be big part of the game. The best refs communicate with coaches and explain the call and are
Accountable.
“It looked up high to me, Coach.”
“I didn’t see that coach, I’ll look for it.”
The problem is when they blow critical calls and effect the outcome of the game. Then they will compound the issue by doubling down with no explanation or communication and give a bench penalty or throw out a coach who asks for an explanation. Asking for an explanation from a coach or hearing that your call stinks from the fans is part of being a ref. Blow the whistle, communicate, be accountable, and move on. Getting your ego hurt and taking it out on a team because someone questioned your call is bad refereeing.