Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
When a coaches relative plays over kids who are clearly better players (kids committed to Top 20 programs), how should a parent respond? Serious question.


IMHO every situation is different, you can turn the question around and say "When a top 20 committed player plays over kids who are clearly better players how should a parent respond? " as both cases happen all the time. There are 10 spots on the field and unless this is goal then good players should get in the field, maybe not when you want or the position you would like but a kid committed to a top 20 school should be able to get on the field. HS coaches should not care where a kid is committed or if he starts on his summer team, he should be concerned with who gives him the bast chance of winning. regardless of who he is related to.

Parents five biggest reasons for a kid not playing
#1) other kids parents give money to booster club
#2) my kid does not play on coaches pay for play summer team
#3) kid playing over my kid is coaches (Son, Nephew or Godson)
#4) Kid playing over my son is committed to D1 school
#5) Kid playing over my kid has a parent on the school board

Actual biggest reason your kid isn't playing
#1) Coach thinks another kid gives team a better chance of winning


Unfortunately the # 1 reason for a coach should be what you say, but in many cases among high schools this is not the case. Many LI HS teams are run by parents who have a lot of power and say over the HS coach, who is also a teacher in the HS. Most teacher-coaches care about 1 thing: Getting paid and moving on to the next sport if they coach multiple ones. And the HS coaches who run a Summer program also only care about 1 thing: Getting paid!! No HS coach should be able to run a pay to play Summer program in the same school district. It's ridiculous! So a lot of favors and nepotism occur. Sometimes costing the programs championships.