A big difference between being a HS coach vs. being a college coach is the ability to pick your players as opposed to have to coach the players you are given. The college coaches I have had dealings with seem to take the "Character" part of the equation seriously but at the end of the day they seem to be most interested in ability, athleticism and size (you can coach lacrosse but you can't coach size and speed) and they do not depend on HS coaches for that. They all have pretty big egos and believe they can mold the kid into what they want.