It's less about the good coach that you're describing and more about the bad apples. The ones who hijack the position from the get go and hold it the whole time your child is a child. It's like whoever claims the position first wins and that is what most parents want changed. And usually it's a guy with no experience. PAL and travel lacrosse included. How may Daddy coaches assisting travel lax to guarantee a spot on the field for their sons? I get that and accept it. But when the daddy coach regurgitates false information at the top of his lungs to your child and you child is forced to comply - knowing that the instructions ar incorrect - then you confuse the child and make them want to quit.