So are you going to blame or punish the kid because his parents made the decision to hold him back? Not sure tha would be consistent with Marianist values either.
The fact remains that many parents are making this decision. Indeed, many parents believe holding their child back has benefits other than athletic benefits (including social and academic benefits). Read Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. Many people are holding their kids back. You better get used to it and stop whining about it.
Many LI parents do heroin - should we all get used to that too?
Possession of heroin is illegal and harmful to the user and others. Holding your kid back is not illegal and not harmful to the child or others. Lousy analogy.
Holding back ican be harmful to the child and may also be harmful to others:
1. Hold backs steal spots from deserving on age kids. 2.Holding your kid puts pressure on them to be dominant. If they don't excel, they become the laughing stock, an embarrassment. Why would you put your kid in that position? 3. Holding your kid back instilled the message in your child that he's not good enough to compete fairly in life, and must always look for a way to cheat to stay on top. 4. You are viewed as a disgusting example of a parent by your peers who didn't hold their kid back for an advantage. And if you don't think we berate you when your back is turned, you need to be more observant. But you probably don't care because you yourself probably have a weak character. 5. Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should. 6. Anything your child does accomplish, will not be admired the way you think. He will always be referred to as the cheating holdback who was not good enough to compete against kids his own age.
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