I think you're painting an ugly picture and making it as though every coach that works for a club team has the wrong Intentions, which is simply not true. You may of had a bad personal experience but don't make it as your experience is everyone's experience, and quite frankly I'd rather have my children play in summer for a coach who coaches high school lacrosse as opposed to young college players who aren't as experienced, or a father whose kid in on the team.