This is a problem across the board in all sports, not just lacrosse. Kids and their families feel tremendous pressure to play for the high school coach - but it doesn't matter. The coach wants to win and for the most part will play the better player. Now if there is a tie at the talent level then maybe the tiebreaker goes to the kid who played for the coach. On the other hand for recruiting purposes, maybe it is better to have two advocates for your child instead of just one.