We went through the hs selection process last year. IMO It was pretty easy to tell if the interest was real-

Does the school seem sincerely interested and trying to connect to get to know your son?

Are they up front with specific program information? The coaches and programs should be open books. Do they answer all your questions thoroughly? No secrets, no vague information.

We figured- If you didn't treat my son well l, or with respect, or value him during the honeymoon phase, why will it be different when he gets on campus?

We eventually went where our kid seemed most valued and we thought would be most appreciated. And he's been very happy so far.

Trust your gut.