Originally Posted by Anonymous
Dad of a middle school kid playing for one of the big brand "elite" clubs in maryland (we're closer to baltimore than philly) but going to a PA public school system not known for lax hoping for some answers/advice...

1. Our "elite" club has been averaging 17 D1 commits per year. In your experience, how many of those kids are recruited and brought in during high school vs. being developed from middle school? My kid's probably in the top 25% of our team but is not one of the key studs. What type of turnover should I expect come 9th grade?

2. If my kid does develop, is he screwed because he doesn't go to a private school with a reputation? Several team dads say that school is more important than club in getting visibility.

I appreciate any advice...

Thoughts to offer:

The college counseling offices at top MIAA schools have a counselor to student ratio that is a fraction of the counselor caseload in a public school. This is a big help if your son is focused on finding academic and cultural fit as opposed to just "getting into a good school" with athletics (lacrosse) as a differentiator. In terms of numbers, a few MIAA college counselors I know have about 15 students, and public HS college counselors I know have over 300.

High-quality dIII schools can give more money than DI athletic programs in lacrosse - not athletic $$, but merit and need-based aid. DI lacrosse splits 12.5 scholarships across a team, while DIII financial aid and merit money is unrestricted. For example, Williams (NESCAC) has the highest endowment on a per-student basis in the world...if they want your son enough, they will find the money.

Most MIAA schools have a very solid academic reputation and are highly regarded by college admissions counselors, and your son will be able to find a friend group that is serious about preparing for college. Not saying this isn't the case in publics, but if it is a question of friend group and daily environment, the difference is striking.

HS class size is quite different in the private schools. Smaller classes mean more teacher time, more attention, more discussion, and a greater focus on individual needs.

We invested in private schools for both our kids, which was a significant expense. As public school grads, my wife and I see the difference in our experiences every day, and we would do it all again without any doubt.

Good luck to your son and your family as you begin this journey.