Agreed. 30k x 4 high school years $3k club fees for 6-7 years $30k x 4 college years. $260 k for lax. Let’s say that is counting the 20% off in scholarship for lax.
My 2 cents. If you daughter has a chance to attend the school she wants (public or private) give it a shot. If you get 1/3-2/3 of the tuition reduced and you can afford it, it is worth pursuing. At the end of the day, you will not know what is available if you do not apply.