I agree, but still after all this back and fourth, still no answer from a holdback parent. I’m asking that simple question. What does it feel like when your youth child runs through kids 1 to 2 years younger? I’d be so embarrassed. That’s me. I’m asking you. Just answer. I don’t want to here life is unfair. I don’t want to hear about private school tuitions. I don’t want to here how it will prepare them for high school. I don’t want to here how you were captain in 11th and 12th grade. I don’t want to hear how tall you and your wife are. I got all that. That’s called changing the topic. The topic and the question once again. How would it feel if your 8 year old son ran through the 6 and 7 year old kids playing against him? Answer the question.
Let's try it again. They DO NOT FEEL ANYTHING BECAUSE THEIR KID IS PLAYING WITH THE SAME GROUP OF KIDS HIS ENTIRE LIFE SO THEY DON'T REALLY REALIZE ANYTHING IS WRONG. THEY DIDN'T HOLD THEIR KID BACK FOR SPORTS SO THERE IS NOTHING ABNORMAL TO THEM. JOHNNY IS PLAYING WITH THE SAME KIDS HE DID 3 YEARS AGO BUT IS BIGGER
I couldn't tell you how it feels bc my children always played with older kids. When I see a physically dominant kid or uber talented kid tearing up the competition, I feel badly for the kid as well as the others playing as it seems to take some of the fun out of it and he really can't feel that good about himself. Beyond an occasional thought of sadness, I really don't/didn't pay much attention to it. At some point, the advantage of being older might pay dividends, it might not- I guess it depends on the parenting. But I certainly don't get bent out of shape for my own kids bc they were almost always the youngest on their teams and that in of itself was a challenge- emotionally and socially. But it all worked out. No regrets.
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