It stinks when your kid isn't in the "starter club" But if he was wouldn't you go along for the ride? You can't blame them . Especially now that there getting older it means more opportunities, Would you turn them away? You have to accept what level your kid is in on - if that means working hard to be the best he can be even if it's not going to put him as a top team starter, So be it. I would rather pay for lax whatever level it might be and have a heathy hobby Then re-hab.