Holdback parents keep telling yourself it does not give your kid an advantage. Your kid could not compete at the level you wanted him to playing kids his age so you held him back. For most there is no reason to hold back except to find a way to make your kid better at lacrosse without working hard. Your kid could not do it the old fashion way of hard work, training and playing top competition so he took the easy way out. Got better by holding back. Problem is the life long lesson that goes with that. Instead of teaching your kid to work harder to get what he wants you have tought him to find a way to cheat the system to avoid working harder to get better. A few holdbacks work for me. Trust me. Holding them back did not prepare them for the real world. Always finding ways to cut corners and avoid hard work. These kids went to top ten colleges. Not nearly as successful as the men who graduated the proper year. If your kid wants to get better don't tell him to hold back. Tell him to work harder.
