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That’s the problem but. A 15-16 year old is making that decision. Not a 45-55 year old parent. My daughter will be picking her school by the best team that wants her unless she grows up and gets common sense between now and October. This has been talked about on her about playing time or going to a top team. I’m on the team of how can you go somewhere and not play for four years. And now with the transfer portal, that could happen to a lot more kids at the top.


A few more things to add from someone who has gone through it. Yes, it’s an honor to be recruited to a school like UNC or Northwestern, but consider the commitment. It’s very different than Princeton, Stanford, ND. If you have very academically motivated daughter, she may not be able to take on a difficult major. Hard to play for a NC caliber team and get difficult work done in the classroom. How many lax players are computer science majors? You really need to decide what is most important. The other things to seriously consider is the facilities. Is there an indoor facility if the climate is cold? How far is the practice field from the dorm. For example, at Yale you need to take a bus to practice, yuk. How does the school/professors treat student athletes? Northwestern and Stanford love them. Harvard could care less. These are just schools I’m familiar with.

Some good points. Thank you. Gonna have my daughter add that question to coaches. Not sure she’ll get a straight answer but it’s a good one to ask.

all great info , but for many this is the point after three major events that the bench players on top teams realized it might have been better to go somewhere else and actually play and be seen

happens every year without fail , but go back three years and all they talk about is how great the practices are and that they will play in the recruiting years

Not sure my daughter at 16 is mature enough to see down the road in five years where she’s 21 and is sitting the bench on the number 5 team. Good flex in High School to say you are going to BC, NW UNC etc. but when you get there and don’t play, I think there may be some regrets. That’s why you see many of these transfers these days.

There are players that sit on the bench on every team … Dl, Dll, Dlll… not everyone gets meaningful game time.

But my point is she wouldn’t have to sit the bench if she goes to another team that isn’t top 20.

Wrong, girls sit on every team. Some very talented players also don’t get the “green light”. Take Charlotte North for example. She transferred and a star was born

Dolt. I’m talking about my daughter.

You do realize that during recruiting, everyone is told they will play. And honestly, the coach probably somewhat means it. But the reality is very different. Even if you think your daughter is heading to a program where she will definitely play, she may not. I’ve seen it many many times.

Absolutely most coaches are gonna tell the kid whatever they want but it was clear from my post that I was talking about not taking a top 5 spot and going lower where you can absolutely play. Once again. For the people in the back. If you are making a spot on NW you are playing on E Stroudsberg or Radford

Nobody is turning down Northwestern for Radford. That is just silly. Education first.If your daughter got hurt, where would she want to be. I could see trading a spot at Northwestern for lets say Georgetown or Vanderbilt, that would make more sense if you’re just looking for playing time.

How about Northwestern for Tufts is that better

Not really. Tufts has a very good woman’s lacrosse program. Lots of talented girls sit bench there too. As for CN, she was not a star on Duke. Yes she played, but she was not able to showcase her true ability. Which is why she transferred. Think about it. She was/is a great lacrosse player. She transferred from Duke, a better academic school, to BC, where the coaching is clearly much better. She made the trade off for more playing time, and it paid off big for her.


Keep moving the goal post buddy. Not a star on Duke?
Dude go post on a quidditch forum. She scored 82 friggin goals the year she transferred. At Duke. LMAO. BOTC Hall of Famer! Doubled down on your stupidity.

I still can’t. Left BC More playing time. 🤡