Holdback father conversation. Son. You are not good enough at lacrosse at your age 2025 so we are holding you back so you can be a stronger player at 2026 grade and play kids a year younger. I know you won’t graduate with your friends and have to repeat a year of school but me and mom are willing to pay for a private school so you get a lacrosse scholarship because in the end that’s the most important thing in life. …..clap clap clap. I know. It’s their business right. Great example they are setting. Son there are ways to cut corners to get ahead. Playing by the rules is for others. Learn from this
If holding back is going to give my son an opportunity to get into Duke, Virginia, Ivy, etc… instead of an average/slightly above average school, then yes, I would do that all day and twice on Sunday. That decision can change the trajectory of his life. Also, some kids don’t have a ton of friends and are friends with kids on their lax teams. If he goes to SA or Chaminade he’s likely to know a bunch of the kids on the team.
And no, my sons are not holdbacks.
Yes that decision will undoubtedly change one’s trajectory and not necessarily for the better. Your argument is totally immoral and of very bad character. Someone failed you in life and now you’re trying to justify your life. I avoid people like you like, avoid like the plague. I’ll pray for your soul.
Wow, you like yourself a lot dont you. Trying to understand why reclassing a kid for any reason is immoral. and then really trying to understand who failed you that you come on a message board and judge on morality. FYI- my son has reclassed because he had an opportunity to get a much better education after being disconnected and depressed during his lost Covid year. Yes, depression is real and impacts people. He is now as happy as he has ever been, getting a great education and is still a top d1 recruit. He never plays down, has always played up and will only do showcases at his grade level. The network he is growing and the opportunities he has already had provided are as far away from the psychiatric visits and depressing conversations that we were having. Judge me and post your phone number and address so we can continue this discussion. You have no idea of what you speak.
Wrong. Reread the thread. The argument clearly stated was holding back for sports reasons to get kid recruited to a top school. Do you agree with holding back for sports reasons at the expense of an on age kid? If so, I’ll try and avoid you too.
I am personally against it but until it stops getting rewarded by college coaches it will always be a part of the sport. Don’t detest the player, detest the game.
