Have any of your boys played lacrosse past the 3rd grade? Because on the HS and college level they are sending defensemen to the box for very little contact. If you think lacrosse is still a contact sport you are not paying attention to the game. I played 30 years ago, it was more like hockey then, not now. It is no longer an aggressive sport, if you think that I can only assume your older kids had limited success in the game. I was a defenseman in the 80's, did not coach my kids to play the way I did. Sorry, games changed. By the way, did YOU play?