I think we have to face up to it. maybe the poster a few ago that said the good 19's are done and committed was right ( as nasty and doushy as he was..) the difficult thing is getting your daughter to think about plan B. how exactly do you have the conversation about changing the goal to D3?? I mean they are great schools- and super hard to get into without academic assistance right?? is that the tact to take on this?
