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Any takers on who plays in the TOC final?

Chatham vs. Ridgewood

Any early picks to which teams will win each conference?

Delbarton vs Mountain Lakes. Rematch.

Anyone know of any good showcases to attend this winter?

Does anyone know what NJ schools are doing for spectators? Can non-parents attend the Delbarton SHP game? If not, are NJ schools going to livestream games?

I do not think that there is any specific policy in place, but I imagine that at least parents will be able to attend, anything less would be ridiculous considering that parents were allowed to attend indoor winter sports. I know that the covid numbers were low last summer, and not trying to make any political statements about covid policies, but I attended a bunch of very crowded tournaments with no problems for the spectators or the players.

I think the person asked for real information, not speculation.

This post had to come from Mr. BBL, tossing out useless information.

Looks like LE daddy has the day off from work...perhaps we can get a more informative post, perhaps something about LE and their recruits

My son plays for Tri-State but nice try. Does anyone have real information on NJ High School other than this guy?

My understanding from the administration at a Shore High School they are going to hand out wristbands to parents similar to football. No idea how they are going to enforce or manage wristbands for 3 games in one week. Have not heard anything about livestreaming.

Then why all of the BBL chatter, did you have a bad experience with BBL (and for what it's worth my son does not play for BBL so I guess we are both wrong)...I do know that a few very talented kids moved to TS from BBL because they were not happy with BBL, plus there have been other defections to TS because of the link to SHP

As I tried explain earlier, there is no uniform state policy, other than applicable outdoor gathering limitations, therefore, each school will probably handle things a little differently, as they did during the fall and winter. Limiting to parents seems like the most logical. As far as livestreaming, some schools have the capability and do it quite often, depends on the school.

Anyone have predictions for the HS Season? Preps... SHP, Delbarton, could Bosco/St. Augustine finally be in the mix for #1? Funny to think lots of first time varsity starters at the top clubs. Only a handful Seniors would have gotten major time at those schools as sophomores.

How about Publics, Summit/Chatham/Ridgewood/ML/Central are always good with Bridgewater/Westfield/Shawnee lurking, Montgomery seems to be down.

the club chatter should be a a minimum during the HS season

I think it would be really funny if both of these guys are Tri-State parents lol.....the one guy could be deflecting though and still be BBL...

Manasquan has like 7 D1 commits...they are always tough but the lower grades are not as deep anymore.

They have a very talented senior class, the legacy of the Mad Dog National 2021 team runs deep on Manasquan, and to a certain extent, CBA.

Rumson Fair Haven beat Chatham...is Rumson that good or is Chatham not as talented this year?

Word is that Chatham is not that great...RFH does have some very good players, but not sure if they have the depth to be a legitimate contender

I wouldn't sleep on the top 3 shore teams. RFH plays Bergen Catholic today and Manasquan plays SHP tomorrow, it's still early but we will know more.

One of the lower-grade kids put up 9 points yesterday.

The comment was about overall depth, not that there aren't decent younger kids....I guess we can see how the lower-grade kids do tomorrow.

The comment was about overall depth, not that there aren't decent younger kids....I guess we can see how the lower-grade kids do tomorrow.

One down One to go.

True, and a good win for RFH, but big difference between BC and a nationally ranked SHP team...should be interesting.

RFH is better than Squan or at least right now. Squan missed the first two weeks because of Covid.

I guess we now have a better idea about Manasquan...the top of the Shore Conference is good, but they are not going to run with SHP, Delbarton or Mountain Lakes

Is it Chatham's talent or is the coach the issue? They might be lucky to win 7 games this year.

Does a town like Chatham suffer from kids going to Delbarton or SHP. Obviously, it doesn't really affect programs like Summit and Mountain Lakes that are typically top 5 every year.

Awfully quiet in this forum considering the results from last week.

Might hear even less after Delby drops their 3rd game tomorrow.

Son was looking at several prep schools to play at on the future. Nice to cross one off the list after Saturday

Can someone post the link for the NJ State Boys HS Lacrosse Rankings....I am having trouble finding it.

I am assuming that this is a joke

It's simple. Go to Don Bosco if you want championships next 4 years. Forget the rest.

This is a ridiculous discussion started by somebody that obviously has an axe to grind with Delbarton. How about you send your kid to the best school where he can get a great education. If you are so interested in pursuing lacrosse over everything else, and your kid is such a stud, send him to boarding school where he can sit on the bench and watch the PG's play.

By the sound of that guy, my guess is they can't afford it. Town HS is always a good option and better chance of making varsity as a freshman.

The poster should go look at the talent on the SHP JV team, those parents also thought that their kid was a lock for varsity.

Now there's the Delbarton douchiness we are used to seeing.

It was a joke. Relax. Good luck to your son and hope you pick the right school.

No TOC but there’s always Essex County championship next year to dream of.

"Awfully quiet in this forum considering the results from last < >" - this didn't age well. Hope you learned your lesson OP. Not too late to pull out of of that prep school you chose for your son. Although they were the best in NJ in April. Can you send us the link to the rankings again. I'm having trouble finding it.

Actually, the posters are not the same, the original; post was not meant as a dig, it was just intended to express my surprise that the forum was so quiet considering the past back and forth regarding the two schools. The prep school comment was a different poster, and I agree that the statement was ridiculous. As for the game yesterday, that was simply a failure to appreciate the fact that, despite having less than expected success this year, Delbarton should never be underestimated. While I have no love for Delbarton, best of luck to them in the finals, it will be a tough game.

100% Disagree^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Going to be a smoke show!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But we'll know for sure in about 20hrs!!

Which part do you disagree with....that SHP should not have underestimated Delbarton, or that it will be a tough game for Delbarton vs. DB...there really wasn't anything to disagree with in the post. If you are referring to Delbarton vs. DB, I agree that DB will probably dominate the game. Ironically, not too long ago Delbarton was the team that would have dominated the game, DB is on a good run with a solid group of players, but as Delbarton found out, it doesn't last forever.

Winner tonight will win TOC. There you go.

I see that we have moved on to a new topic, but agreed...I guess that importing a few player paid off

RFH/Summit winner takes the TOC

It’s tough to repeat so RFH would be my pick.

Summit will be a good test for RFH, they have a handful of good wins, but not against the likes of Summit. Either way, I think that Don Bosco will be hard to beat if they get past Delbarton.

I think the DB/Delbarton winner and the RFH/Summit winner will be the two top seeds in the TOC. Chatham will win Group 3, ML group 1, Pingry Private B and Group 4 is more up in the air. Should be a real good TOC.

Makes sense, but if RFH beats Summit, I think ML will be one of the top 2, assuming that they beat Manasquan

When I disagreed it was in reference to "tough game" statement. But it looks like I over estimated Delbarton's abilities!!! 11-8 I'd say they kept it respectable!!!

Actually, all the games were respectable, Manasquan and RFH also kept their games close.

Group 4 is not even a game.. top shore teams beat Southern by 10. HC will not lose a faceoff.

1. DB
2. Summit
3. ML
4. Ping
5. Chatham
6. HC

First-round games should be very interesting but DB & Summit in the finals. Summit defence wins the game, they handled a very physical RFH team last night so they can handle DB physical play.

Wait till they face DB’s fogo. I like your analysis though. This is Summit’s year to win TOC.

See this is why you gotta LOVE the interwebs!!!!!!!!!! You guys down in Jersey do it right!! I had no idea about TOC. Thats AWESOME!! See I'm a NY guy but the kids play travel in Jersey and will Attend Jersey Catholic HSs. Great stuff!!!

DB vs Ping fogo on Wed should be outstanding.

Welcome to NJ Lax. Your kid will love playing Jersey HS lax. Heads up, the non pubs are ultra competitive. NJ ToC setup is great. Winning it is the ultimate goal for every player in the state. Does NY have something similar?

Do you know if Wed games will be live streamed?

So this year NY phucked up the HS sports for the kids. But basically lacrosse speaking they did section championships. There are 11 sections in the state not including NYC, they do their own thing. Under normal conditions the section champs will go and play in the state tournament. The schools are broken up by size, A/B/C/+D. "A" being the bigger schools to "D" being the smallest. So essentially there are 8 state champs ever year, 4-boys and 4- girls. Some of the other sports get super notIntelligent like for instance wrestling and football. Wrestling champions get broken up in to big school little school champs and they added wild card wrestlers in each weight class. In football there's a what I call continental state champ or main land NY champ, a NYC champ, and a Long Island champ. Again all broken up by school size. Really convoluted IMHO!!!!!!!!!!!

But yeah thank you I really feel at home in NJ. My wife and I love Bergen!!!!!!!! I'd love to move to Jersey but I'd have to get a real job and give up my hobbies, lol. The sports are really competitive in turn the travel clubs offer lots of training. Obviously the Catholic HSs are the carrot and I've explained to the kids that its more then just wanting to go to them, its more then just being good athletes, and that the schooling and grades are paramount!!!! Luckily they are smart like mama bear, so time will tell!!

Not even a contest if the box score is correct. DB 15 for 18 Wow!

Would be a real shame if Bosco loses this game after having kids reclass and get recruited from Canada...

Is this true? Which kids?

Chatham coach is leaving for St. Joe’s Metuchen.

Is anyone going to give Don Bosco a game this year? Is Delbarton going to turn it back around?

Like travel lax....the teams on the HS level are starting to catch up....Bosco and SHP are probably at the top...not sure about Delbarton anymore but they will still be a really good team.

The landscape of the Non-Publics is certainly changing and this is a direct result of what has happened on the club level in my opinion. Delbarton is a good example. The head coach transition inevitably meant the disruption of the club pipeline the team benefitted from for so many years, of course I'm talking about Patriot lacrosse. By playing for the Patriot youth teams, top players were given early exposure to the school through Ruebling and the other Delbarton assistants, alums, parents etc. who were associated with Patriot. This ensured by the time it came to choosing a high school, these players knew the Delbarton coaches but more importantly, the coaches knew who they were and could then advocate on their behalf during admissions decisions. Then once in high school, having the majority of each class concentrated in the same club allowed the players to develop additional chemistry in the offseason, an especially important factor for a private school where kids did not play together growing up. Then when it came to recruiting, the process was streamlined through Ruebling since he served the role of both varsity coach and club director. Therefore the concurrent success of Delbarton both on the field and on the recruiting trail was very much intertwined with the success of Patriot. The numbers speak for themselves; according to their alumni database from 2006-2022 over 100 Patriot players who attended Delbarton played collegiately. Thus far STEPS has been unable to replicate Patriot in this regard, instead it seems Leading Edge has become the new preferred club destination for the top players at Delbarton. It seems the days of Delbarton producing 10+ D1 recruits a year are over regardless of the club situation. The fact is the sport has grown on a state and national level so more players from more clubs are competing for the same number or even fewer roster spots due to covid. Delbarton's athletic priorities have definitely shifted away from lacrosse in recent years as well, I never thought I would see Delbarton beat Don Bosco in football and lose in lacrosse in the same year. It is no secret that Delbarton is investing big time in the football team, just look at the new field house they're building. The culmination of all these factors was a disastrous 10-7 season in 2021 with the only silver lining being the surprise upset of SHP in the semis. For reference the team had only lost 7 games over the previous four seasons combined. As for the 2022 season I expect the team will be better, but they will need big contributions from mostly unproven underclassmen in order to compete with the other top teams in NPA. SHP and DBP both return very strong and experienced senior classes but I would give the early edge to DBP to repeat. SHP's coach on the other hand is trying to turn Tri-State into his own version of Patriot and seems to be doing a decent job. Whether or not the Tri-State connection will ultimately translate into a championship for the pirates remains to be seen, however they are clearly bringing in the necessary talent level to compete each year so I expect they'll eventually break through. If last year is any indication, the door is wide open for teams not wearing green and white next year.

Boys Recruiting Thoughts and Help for the Masses

I posted this in the Northeast “Boys High School Lacrosse” forum but it was suggested I post this in some of the other regions. None of this gospel; just thoughts and opinion and trying to help out parents who may have been as clueless as me in the beginning

I apologize ahead of time as this is a VERY VERY long post so I left a TL;DR summary at the top. There are also likely errors in this so I welcome any corrections. I also suspect these thoughts may hold true for the girl’s game but I don’t know anything about girl’s recruiting. Yes, I have too much time on my hands now the kids have moved on.

I am posting this as anonymous – I’m not notIntelligent (haha). This may generate a lot of thoughts, positive or negative but the point is to get a discussion going because I find there is very little actual recruiting help on these forums. I am sure many of the replies will be “bitter parent” “Ok Rebel Parent” or “team91 parent” or “Stunad” or “legacy dad” or “your kid graduated, why are you still on these forums you creeper”, etc. This is just one person’s opinion as someone who has gone through it (kid was a middie, on-age who ended up in a good D3 school) but had some D1 looks / offers so maybe this can be used to help others (or maybe I’m a coach……..). If you feel the need to comment, try to post something constructive. If you don’t like the post; scroll on by.

You may agree with 0%, 50% or 90% of it. It is important to note that these are just generalizations on a Bell Curve; there are always exceptions to the rules: there are some who got recruited way above their pay class and there also talented people who fell far in recruitment. This should apply to most but there are definitely outliers where people have forged their own paths. Tell us your stories!

For those whom this is TL;DR

1) Talent and connections trump everything, which leads into…
2) … being realistic about your kid’s ability as many parents cannot be “objective”
3) Be cognizant of how much you are projecting your own hopes and dreams onto your kid – don’t be that parent.
4) Some of you feel like you are running on a “Hamster Wheel” when it comes to recruiting. Find out what “Hamster Wheel” you want to be on – don’t be afraid to change wheels midstream
5) Have “fun” – but to be perfectly honest, if you are at the level where you are hoping to be recruited, I am not going to sit here and say having fun is the only thing that matters because that is BS. That being said, having fun is still important whether it be lacrosse, long road trips with your kids, having a meal with them, visiting colleges – all are fun.
6) Whatever college or trade school you kid ends up in, it will be perfectly OK in the end
7) Don’t believe what everyone tells you (including me). What may have worked for someone else may not work for you as I can guarantee you kid is so very different from everyone else.
8) Lacrosse is finite – don’t make short term decisions with long term consequences. It is Ok to sacrifice saying “my kid got into a low D1 school with poor academics” just for the sake of being D1. It will be better in the long run to apply to a better academic D1 school that has club, the MCLA’s or better academic D3 schools

Soooo, moving on these are the factors that I think of importance (from most to least) to get recruited:

1) Talent – trumps all – if your kid is already a superstar, most of this does not apply to you. If he/she don’t have as much talent, try to be realistic about their high level D1 / D3 dreams. Be very realistic about how your own child grades out. You may think they are superstar but if they haven’t competed on the national stage where the competition is the best, you cannot really know how good your kid is, even if everyone tells you they are the best. Be as objective as possible; rate your kid on a 100 point scale. Most players who are 93+ have a decent chance at a high D1/D3 school. Anything below that, it is going to be more difficult to get into the top schools and don’t punch way above you kid’s weight class when it comes to recruiting as it will lead to disappointment. However, there really is a lock for every key and if your kid really wants to play lacrosse, there are 400+ schools out there to play at. If you don’t have connections or talent, you will have to market the garbage out of yourself – go to showcases, prospect days, make good videos, email (the appropriate amount), sign up for recruiting services. But honestly, most of those all have minimal impact unless you have the connections but it’s all you got at that point.
2) Connections (High / Prep School or Club) – my kid went to several prospect days for schools as well as sent several emails to schools and he never heard a peep from any of them until a coach reached out on his behalf. I truly believe that this is the most important beyond talent. Coaches at all levels are getting hundreds of videos and thousands of email. They simply do not have the time to review them all or even open them. Having a coach call or email, allows you to jump to the top of the food chain (think Chutes and Ladders).
3) Grades – how could I leave this out in the original post! If you don’t have the grades, you aren’t getting into an elite school. Sports will help somewhat but you do have to have some sort of baseline decent grades.
4) Your kid’s High School prestige – there is line somewhere that separates the elite schools for lacrosse from the run-of-the-mill lacrosse high schools. If you are below that line, unless there is an individual connection, your chances of an elite D1/D3 school are slim to none without that connection. That being said, your high school play is still very important for recruiting for the other D1/D2/D3 schools because it is your high school coach that knows you best.
5) Your kid’s Club – same facts hold true as it does (#3) high school. I often get asked what club team should I chose. Do not balk at driving distance as a barrier. Sometimes you will have to drive far to get to a better club. To be honest, I would choose the best, highest ranked club because they play in the best tournaments (NAL, NLF, Crabfeast and Naptown, Great8) and try and get on their A squad at as young an age as possible. That way the club knows your child over time and will go to bat for you eventually. In addition, if you don’t make the top team, it gives you a chance to: work your way up to the A team or look for another club that may suit you better. That brings up the topic of A vs B. In reality, most B teams are not sending players to top D1/D3 schools (some are but that is not the norm). If being at a top lax school is not your goal then A vs B doesn’t matter as much because plenty of B players play college lacrosse. My kid was on a team that did not think much about his game. He was at a small local club and so he made the jump to a national club. He started on their C team and worked his way up to started on the top team so it is possible. Finally, understand these clubs are in the MONEY MAKING business as most are for-profit. They will sell you a bridge to nowhere as long as they get your tuition checks. Here is how I break them down:
a. Some are outright frauds. They don’t care and they just want your money
b. Some put together some half -hearted attempts at recruiting – they go through the motions but are not really making phone calls on your kids behalf
c. Others really only promote their best players. These are also fraudulent as they put all their time and effort into marketing their best players only, while the rest remain tution check to support those best players.
d. Finally, there are some truly excellent programs who will do their best to place a kid anywhere whether it be the best D1 program to the worst D3 program.
e. I would be remiss if I didn’t mention National teams and National tournaments – on paper, it is a very good idea but part of me says there is a money grab aspect. You can even see multiple clubs joining together to make national team (eg CLCA). I think it is the next evolution and I would not be surprised if National tournaments become the norm with local tournaments still existing but becoming second fiddle.
Coaches will tell you they will help you with recruiting but the reality is they do not want to put their name out there to back you if there is a lacrosse:talent mismatch. So if your Johnny rates as an 80, don’t ask your coach to get you into Syracuse because they won’t do it. It is a shame that some clubs promise you the world but don’t help you even though are paying $2000-4000 for your club; for them to not help you is just fraudulent. How to tell if a club is real or not? Look at their website. A good one would post a list of ALL their commits, not just the ones who get into top D1 schools which usually means they had a favorite player. Look at their social media. Are all of their posts only about 1-5 of their top kids? Finally, word of mouth – talk to the older kids and kids who have moved through the program; not the superstars but the average ones who had college lax dreams.
6) Prospect Days – this is the best way to get in front of a school on an individual basis. However, many of these are pure money grabs. We have been to several where no one was filming, coaches had no paper or they were not writing anything down. Clearly no evaluation was going on. It does allow you to get in front of the coaches and look at the campus. But I am somewhat cynical because if you were not already on their radar, a coach didn’t send you, or you were not invited, it is unlikely to be helpful.
7) Showcases- There are so many showcases out there. Many of them are money grabs and really garbage showcases. How do you know what is a good showcase? I wish I knew the answer to that but I can say that if the showcase has a good list of head coaches then it is going to be pretty good. If the communication is pretty good, then that is also a good sign. I will throw it out there and say good ones are Showtime, The Players Series, Spotlight, ECD, Lacrosse Masters, Main Stage, NXT Fall, The Show, Juniors Open, Main Stage. Then there are the average showcases (3D, adrenaline, my lacrosse tournaments, Elite 100, Elite 180, GFW, Q4, Victory, Maryland Showcase). UA and National All Star Games are very good but very political. 1%, FiveStar and Apex are very heavily marketed but have found them to be more glitz than substance. What is important to know is nobody is going to be “discovered” at most of these so do not think your kid is going to show up and “kill it” and get recruited by Duke. Coaches usually have a list of players they are there to see and if the kid does well, then they reach out. Finally, no one cares about wins and losses at showcase so don’t be that parent.
8) Recruiting video – coaches are getting hundreds of video so they may never even open your video or emails. That being said, video is still 100% necessary in this day and age of recruiting. If they do open it, you want your intro to be brief and you want to front load your 5-star highlights. Some say don’t use music; my feeling is they can always mute it. Try to film your own video even though it is a pain in the arse. Much of the paid tournament videos offered are expensive and very poor quality. It is a pain in the butt to film your own highlight video but you will have a much higher quality video that is zoomed in appropriately. Iphone and imovie work perfectly fine or invest in a cheap HD camcorder. Some of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen: inappropriate offensive music, not zooming in on your child, including highlights that aren’t highlights, not highlighting /circling your player in the video (you know your kid so it’s easy to pick out for you but most coaches, it’s pretty hard to pick up to the player in that 4 second clip). Some say, don’t make it longer than 2 minutes; my feeling is most coaches aren’t watching past 1 minute (if they open it) and if you give a 6 minute highlight video they can always just shut it off.
9) Position – kids are specializing more and more (SSDM, FOGO, LSM and goalies). If you are really good at your position, you stand a very good chance. If you are mediocre, you better show that you can do other things. At the Prospect Days, I have noticed more and more defenders and less middies which stinks for defense, that stinks because I think that is also the hardest position to get recruited at. Goalies always fill first so get in early. If you are not looking high level, none of this is as important
10) Recruiting profiles (NCSA, SportsRecruit, ConnectLax, CaptainU) – these are likely only helpful for the mid-lower Tier D1, D2, D3 schools. The top schools will not or do not use these services – they do everything through connections.

Additional comments, myths and facts?

1. I am assuming that most people “try to punch up” with their recruiting (ie they will try and overachieve with their lacrosse ambitions) so be patient, be realistic and don’t be disappointed. There is a “lock for every key” as there are over 400 lacrosse colleges. If you really want to play lacrosse, you will find a school.
2. Re-class – there is so much detest on this forum about re-classed players. Unfortunately, it is here to stay until colleges and clubs change their mind (USA Lacrosse has zero ability or desire to change this). Colleges and clubs don’t want to change because they want the most mature and physically gifted players so they could care less that your kid is on-age. Some kids re-class for legit reasons (maturity, academics). But some also re-class to try and get into a better school. IMHO, re-classing is destroying the sport but it’s here to stay. It is completely unfair but totally within the rules. Why on earth would someone re-class for lacrosse reasons only is beyond me. I can’t imagine how dominant my kid would have been if he was going against kids 1 -3 years younger.
3. Lacrosse players are not getting a full scholarship: Full scholarships are uncommon and most will only get a very small amount of money
4. Lacrosse is finite: I think lacrosse carries on forever whether it be a playing in beer league, coaching, raising your own kid, etc. But in terms of a career, very few people go on to make a living out of playing lacrosse. Lacrosse has a finite end and for some it ends after high school; some after college. Don’t make short term decision with long term consequences
5. Commit vs Preferred-Walk-on vs Walk-on – I know very little about this. All I can say is that if you are a preferred walk-on you are on the team but you don’t always travel. If you tryout and walk-on (not preferred), there are generally very little chances or spots at the high collegiate level but probably plenty at the lower caliber schools
6. Prep vs Private vs Catholic – depends what part of the country you live. Not all preps are lacrosse powerhouses nor are all catholic schools. There are a few public schools that carry a lot of weight but chances are your high school does not; you will know
7. PG – from what I have been told, do not PG unless it is arranged ahead of time with a college who specifically said you should PG. There are plenty of PG’s who PG but do so without a college talking to them. There are even PG schools out there. They still eventually get into lacrosse schools but it usually is not a step up to playing for Duke / Virginia / Syracuse / Yale etc. That being said, some need to PG for academic and maturity reasons.
8. How often should I email a coach – I believe coaches are getting hundreds of emails. Chances are, they are not going to read or even open your email (at least at the high D1 or high D3 level). That being said – maybe once a month and always have some sort of update whether it being lacrosse or academic.
9. Don’t be that lacrosse dad or mom. Honestly, be quiet. Don’t coach your son on the field. Don’t yell “wheels” “ward” “offsides” and ride the refs. Coaches do actually notice this. They don’t care so much at the collegiate level because they can limit the parent’s sphere of influence but somewhere in the back of their mind, they are wondering if the apple doesn’t fall from the tree when they are recruiting. No one cares that you were once a superstar or failed athlete. Everyone can see you are projecting who you once were or wanted to be onto your child
10. The Grass is Not Always Greener (See Clubs above) – it’s OK to be a club hopper – we jumped clubs and it worked out for the better but it doesn’t always. Just make sure you are doing it because there are faults with the club and not faults with you or your kid. Most parents cannot tell the difference sadly. If you do go club hopping, make sure you latch on to one before high school because making the change after high school is very difficult
11. The New England region and Long Island used to be center of the lacrosse universe. That is no longer the case. I believe it is currently the MidAtlantic (re-class) but areas such as the South (Fl, GA, TX), Midwest (Il, MI) and West (CA, CO) are producing amazing players along with New England and LI still being very good
12. D1 vs D2 vs D3
a. D1 – I think a lot of kids can play D1 as there are some D1 schools that are not as competitive out there and would be happy to take all sorts of talent. The only thing I would advise is don’t go D1 for the sake of going D1. D1 is also a full time job so they have to juggle academics with their lacrosse.
b. D2 – they do offer scholarships. Some are great schools and great lacrosse programs but academically I have found they are not as good as some of the D1 and D3 schools
c. D3 – I do not believe they offer sport scholarships but will offer other scholarships. Even though D1 is a full time job, D3 is also very busy especially in the spring. The main difference is the 20 hours in the fall that D1 has that D3 does not but D3 still practices in the fall. D3 probably has the largest cohort of schools from incredibly competitive to very mediocre.
d. MCLA – do not overlook these schools. Some are top academic institutions (Stanford, Rice, GaTech, etc)
e. Club lacrosse – also do not overlook this. Totally OK.

Timeline – don’t get sad if all your friends commit on 9/1 of their junior year. D3 doesn’t make offers until later and sometimes D1 makes commitments as late as December of your senior year. Patience, young grasshopper.

D1 - You cannot be contacted by anyone for recruiting until September 1 of your junior year. That being said, they can reach out to you with camps and prospect days but not personally. Now obviously kids who verbally commit on 9/1 must have had some contacts with the colleges but most of it is through high school / clubs

D2 – June 15 after the sophomore year

D3 – I believe they can talk at any time but some of the NESCACs adopt D1 rules. D3 offers do not go out until June (or July?) 1 after their junior year

Choosing a school: it will be a multitude of factors but this is what I think plays into it (in no order)

1) Academics – imho, don’t sacrifice this for lacrosse, but that being said, you will probably be fine at any school depending on what you make out of it
2) D1 vs D2 vs D3 – similar to above – don’t get caught up on the D1 Hamster Wheel – plenty of good options out there
3) Starter vs bench – some kids just want to be part of a process; some need to be the superstar. Find out where your kid is and if you are realistic, it may open doors and don’t shoot for the stars, it may open up a lot of schools.
4) Conference they play in and level of competition
5) Money – it matters. There are some very rich people on these forums who don’t realize that. That being said, most are not getting full sports scholarships.
6) Coaches and their coaching philosophy – this has to be the right fit
7) Lacrosse is finite – don’t choose a school because of a lacrosse

Well I am sure I left a lot out. Let the detest begin (haha). But seriously, try and help out your fellow lax members with something constructive. Everyone enjoy the ride though. It was great for me, my wife and all our kids.

I like your post and agree with basically all that your saying....my only question is I don't really see a lot of LE kids at DB?? Maybe this is something they are trying to cook up but I believe there are around 5 players there with the LE grabbing two 24's which only gives them two years co-joined. I think DB is kind of a mix of clubs. Lastly, what is the make up of Don Bosco? I know of a few travel kids from teams but who all goes there?

Is DB Delbarton or Don Bosco?
Bon Bosco has a lot of box kids from O2.. they did lose their faceoff kids to Lawrenceville. Not sure how much that is going to hurt.
LE has a handful of 22, 23, 24, and a lot of 25 at Delbarton.

I think he was referring to DB as Delbarton for the LE connection and then referred to Don Bosco. Delbarton has some LE 25's but kinda light at the 23 and 24. 22's are old news already lol. I know we don't talk travel in this hs forum but I think these were posted and answered with meaningful insight.

Any preseason ranking come out yet?

Any rough guesses on a top 15 in the state or by area?

Shore Conference
CBA
RFH
Manasquan
Red Bank
Southern
Wall
Shore
Howell

DB
SHP
Westfield
Summit
Mountain Lakes
Delbarton
CBA
Ridgewood
St Augustine
Bergen Catholic
RFH
Chatham
Hunterdon Central
Montclair
Manasquan

Ditto to this one. The top five here is pretty accurate. Only change I would put Wall in over Chatham and CBA as they are both on down years. HC will not lose a face off the entire season so they could go a little higher.

What about Lawrenceville? Best fogo in the state and stacked with Canadian recruits and Culver transfers.

Creter will lose some faceoffs when they play Pingry's Duke FOGO. Will be a great matchup. Speaking of Pingry, they should definitely be in the top 20, if not the top 10. They lost the LSM but tons of studs coming back. And I'd be surprised in Bridgewater doesn't find their way into the top 20 with the 2 x Kurdyla Rutgers' commits and great coach.

Lawrenceville isn't really a NJ High School team.

Since it is located in Lawrenceville NJ pretty sure it is a NJ team.

Replace CBA with Pingry and move RFH up to number 8.. Wall still TBD, they lost a big player last year, the coach is still untested, and didn't they lose kids to the football.

They are number 1 and would beat everyone in the state. Do you feel better? Now we can talk about NJ High Schools.

Teams who have PG players aren’t allowed in the state tournaments, for good reason. So Lville should be on a separate list which includes the other PG schools like Deerfield and Brunswick

Agreed...

What!!!! I don't have a kid at Lawrenceville -- but I can tell you that every single school you have listed has multiple holdbacks and or reclasses. What's the difference?

The difference is that some of those PG kids already were holdbacks so now you have double holdbacks on the field.

Not the point.. We all know that Lawrenceville is the best lacrosse school in the state. move on!