US Lacrosse Community Forum Forums NORTHEAST LACROSSE BOTC MAIN FORUM (LI, CT, WC) Boys 2025-10th Grade Fall 2022/Summer 2023

Why would he suggest playing 2026 if he is a 2025 ? That is called CHEATING. Why not let him play 2025 until HS is over? If your son chooses to do a PG year and develops physically and is good he will get recruited.

My 2025 son played club lax up until a year ago fir a good club. He is a goalie and is pretty good but has not hit a big growth spurt yet. He is 5'6 and 120lbs soaking wet. His club coach asked him to reclass (the Coach's kid was also reclassing). My wife and I talked with our son about it and he looked at us like we had two heads when realizing he would leave his friends and repeat 8th grade. He is also a very good student.

After our discussion he decided to leave club lax entirely and focus on the sport he loved the most, soccer. He changed soccer clubs and is on a very competitive team. His coach is a division 1 college coach for over 30 years for a local college. And his team plays in two leagues, one on age and one UP. His coach tells the boys you want to get better, you have to play against bigger and stronger kids.

Lax is such a cesspool it is disgusting. It is the only sport where kids play DOWN and pound their chests. It is a shame because I love the sport but it is unwatchable now with all the slimy people involved.

Good luck to your son in whatever choice he makes. But remember most of these club coaches really could care less about the kids, it all about marketing the Club name.[/quote

If he is going to PG he should play 2025 then switch to 2026 when he is a rising senior. If he stays with 2025 that summer he will only get seen by D3 coaches.

You only have 4 years to play once you're in public hs. If you reclass you'll have to leave your current school and go to a private/prep.

Correct, so hoping this conversation would end when this class entered HS. If people choose to put their child in a position to open up the most opportunities possible, then that’s their business.

Get ahead at the expense of others. Nice.

That makes no sense.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You only have 4 years to play once you're in public hs. If you reclass you'll have to leave your current school and go to a private/prep.

Holdback father conversation. Son. You are not good enough at lacrosse at your age 2025 so we are holding you back so you can be a stronger player at 2026 grade and play kids a year younger. I know you won’t graduate with your friends and have to repeat a year of school but me and mom are willing to pay for a private school so you get a lacrosse scholarship because in the end that’s the most important thing in life. …..clap clap clap. I know. It’s their business right. Great example they are setting. Son there are ways to cut corners to get ahead. Playing by the rules is for others. Learn from this

Holdback father conversation. Son. You are not good enough at lacrosse at your age 2025 so we are holding you back so you can be a stronger player at 2026 grade and play kids a year younger. I know you won’t graduate with your friends and have to repeat a year of school but me and mom are willing to pay for a private school so you get a lacrosse scholarship because in the end that’s the most important thing in life. …..clap clap clap. I know. It’s their business right. Great example they are setting. Son there are ways to cut corners to get ahead. Playing by the rules is for others. Learn from this

If holding back is going to give my son an opportunity to get into Duke, Virginia, Ivy, etc… instead of an average/slightly above average school, then yes, I would do that all day and twice on Sunday. That decision can change the trajectory of his life. Also, some kids don’t have a ton of friends and are friends with kids on their lax teams. If he goes to SA or Chaminade he’s likely to know a bunch of the kids on the team.

And no, my sons are not holdbacks.

Yes that decision will undoubtedly change one’s trajectory and not necessarily for the better. Your argument is totally immoral and of very bad character. Someone failed you in life and now you’re trying to justify your life. I avoid people like you like, avoid like the plague. I’ll pray for your soul.

Wow, you like yourself a lot dont you. Trying to understand why reclassing a kid for any reason is immoral. and then really trying to understand who failed you that you come on a message board and judge on morality. FYI- my son has reclassed because he had an opportunity to get a much better education after being disconnected and depressed during his lost Covid year. Yes, depression is real and impacts people. He is now as happy as he has ever been, getting a great education and is still a top d1 recruit. He never plays down, has always played up and will only do showcases at his grade level. The network he is growing and the opportunities he has already had provided are as far away from the psychiatric visits and depressing conversations that we were having. Judge me and post your phone number and address so we can continue this discussion. You have no idea of what you speak.

If holding back is going to give my son an opportunity to get into Duke, Virginia, Ivy, etc… instead of an average/slightly above average school, then yes, I would do that all day and twice on Sunday. That decision can change the trajectory of his life. Also, some kids don’t have a ton of friends and are friends with kids on their lax teams. If he goes to SA or Chaminade he’s likely to know a bunch of the kids on the team.

And no, my sons are not holdbacks.

Yes that decision will undoubtedly change one’s trajectory and not necessarily for the better. Your argument is totally immoral and of very bad character. Someone failed you in life and now you’re trying to justify your life. I avoid people like you like, avoid like the plague. I’ll pray for your soul.

I think everyone souls are fine. Problem is arguments people just want to win and have no flexibility and disagreements are when people want to understand both sides. There is good and bad in this, but what has people more upset, older competition vs younger? Or your son will miss out because some kid is older and better? I can say the older vs younger nobody cares about. Look at PAL they promote fairness and all the rest of nonsense and play grade vs age? So even PAL I guess doesn’t have a good soul…point is why argue here. Ask a PAL director, hey why not go age like football?

Yes that decision will undoubtedly change one’s trajectory and not necessarily for the better. Your argument is totally immoral and of very bad character. Someone failed you in life and now you’re trying to justify your life. I avoid people like you like, avoid like the plague. I’ll pray for your soul.

Wow, you like yourself a lot dont you. Trying to understand why reclassing a kid for any reason is immoral. and then really trying to understand who failed you that you come on a message board and judge on morality. FYI- my son has reclassed because he had an opportunity to get a much better education after being disconnected and depressed during his lost Covid year. Yes, depression is real and impacts people. He is now as happy as he has ever been, getting a great education and is still a top d1 recruit. He never plays down, has always played up and will only do showcases at his grade level. The network he is growing and the opportunities he has already had provided are as far away from the psychiatric visits and depressing conversations that we were having. Judge me and post your phone number and address so we can continue this discussion. You have no idea of what you speak.

Heard Chaminade will not be accepting hold backs in the near future. Honestly don’t know how true it is but I did hear it from one of their larger $$$ donors.