Age based youth lacrosse and holdbacks need not be thought of as mutually exclusive. I don't care what grade in school a kid is, or when he or she plans on graduating HS and/or entering college, so long as they play in youth events against kids their own age. College hockey at the D1 level, for instance, has mostly "older" student athletes, yet hockey at the youth level is competed on a BY basis.
This is played out
Played out is an under statement! If parents elect to hold their kids back in order to get a leg up in the lax recruiting circuit, more power to them. But leave the "dead horse" alone in it's grave, beating it any further will not change a thing. I've always said, lax parents an odd bunch