OK....What's the point in giving a Verbal Commitment from School and Player if can be revoked until signing day? What happens if a coach leaves that you've built up a relationship with? What happens if money is withdrawn or offered more from another school? Etc, etc... We are still rushing our girls to make decisions and pressure is on come Sept 1st for Jr year... yet nothing is still set in stone until signing day... Please explain.... players rights, coaches rights......contingencies
Nothing is ever "set in stone". Players can change their mind at any time. They can decommit before they sign a "National Letter of Intent" (only scholarship athletes sign NLI's). They can decommit after signing but the coach must agree to release the player or the player will have to sit out of competition for one year. Most coaches will release the player because if they do not the coach can not use the scholarship $$ for another player. Coaches might choose not to release a player in certain situations, an example might be the player is going to a rival school (especially an in-conference school). The player can choose to transfer even after they are enroll ed at a school (the same rules apply with regard to NLI as they are signed each year).
Coaches can withdraw their offer before the NLI is signed (it is rare but is does happen). Coaches can elect not to renew a schlorship but that is also rare but it can happen.
As in life, there is no perfect time. Things change, coaches leave, offers are withdrawn etc... Go through the process, do your due diligence, identify target schools (schools that your daughter believes would be a good fit) so that if offers are extended you can make a good decision. Be proactive, not reactive.
good luck, enjoy the ride
