In life there is a time and place for everything.
A smart coach does not force his players to do everything but may demand they do select things. Just as an elite athlete doesnt have to do everything his club team does and needs to prioritize some HS events.
As for as some comments over work, a smart HS coach will give enough advance notice and if not will not hold an athlete to it.
Now the boys on the other hand, they all know and that is the bigger jury!
In season a high school coach can require his players to do what he sees fit (within the rules of course and based on good ethics). Out of season, he can ask but that's it. A player should be evaluated based on his talent and preparation beginning with day one of tryouts. My boys were all 2 or 3 sport athletes and were quick to tell an overzealous coach they were preparing for their in season or next season sport. they trained on their own and didn't need a babysitter. And yes, summer jobs come before many of the stupid club tournaments out there. Its called learning how to work and be responsible. If you're good enough the D1 coaches will come calling when the time comes. Lots of fear mongering and huckstering in the lacrosse world both from high school and club coaches. Parents, use lacrosse to get into the best school (academically and culturally) and let the chips fall where they may. Pro lacrosse comp is paltry and will be for the next 20-30 years. If you're looking for the $$ in lacrosse run several good tournaments and/or start a national chain of expensive clubs.
