if your daughter can play there will always be a place for her in college if that's her or your dream so don't stress. The best players on the lesser clubs always find a pretty nice home in college. That's something the YJ's, Liberty and TG's don't tell you. Now the top clubs do make it a little easier because they play the big events where the most coaches are but if you work hard reaching out to coaches you will be fine.
There are really very few exceptional players, most are just very good and colleges are always looking for kids. IMO its better to be on the field playing in crunch time then on the end of an A team bench.
It's not just about recruiting. You get better playing with and against better players. The top clubs do, the other clubs don't. If you want to realize your most potential, it is more difficult at the weaker clubs.
