Hold back parents are losers. Period done.
Wow, your jealousy is very apparent. It is just oozing out of your computer. Now that is what I would call a LOSER. Done, BOOM
What are we jealous about? That our kids can play on age at the same level that your older kid has to play at to excel? I don't think jealous is the word you are looking for.
I think pathetic is a better word for what you have to do for your child to be able to play at an elite level.