Stating the obvious: 1) Without a doubt they do look better because they are playing with and against younger players. 2) Yes, they can compete with kids their own age, but not at the high level their parents would like. If you are a 2nd string / on age player for the Crabs, FCA, Madlax you are still a pretty good player compared to your on age peers, just not a surefire, 9th grade / 10th grade early commit kind of stud. 3) Yes, getting screwed by the holdback kids in front of you at the club and private high school level fuels the continued cycle.
Again, mostly a private school issue! If you are a on age, public schoool player and play for one of the elite club teams you are probably a starter as a freshman for your local high school team. | 
