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FIVE KEY THINGS LAX PARENTS SHOULD KNOW




Posted on 25th Jun 2019 04:27:32


FIVE KEY THINGS ALL LACROSSE PARENTS SHOULD KNOW

 

"Being a parent is humbling," said Ginsburg, the co-director of the Paces Institute for Sport Psychology at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, faculty member at Harvard University, US Lacrosse Sports Science and Safety Committee member and co-author of "Whose Game Is It, Anyway?"

"As a parent, Im getting more and more data on myself. Im amazed at how many mistakes Im making, and how often I can get swept up in the very things that Im warning parents about. Ive studied this, and Ive written books about it. And I still find myself vulnerable to these things," Ginsburg said.

"Its hard work. No one is perfect here. Ninety-nine percent of parents are well-intentioned, and were not crazy, bad people. But theres so much pressure in the culture, and we can get pulled in a lot of directions. Its hard to keep it together. Were going to make mistakes as parents, and thats OK, as long as we learn from our mistakes and try to re-center ourselves by reviewing our values."

Well make this the first observation: Check your ego at the door. Its hard for everyone.

The second observation: There are no hard-and-fast rules. Every child is different. Every parent is different. Every situation is different.

When US Lacrosse Magazine embarked on an adventure to compile advice to help parents navigate the youth lacrosse experience by getting the opinions of more than a dozen influential figures across the game, we didnt know where it would take us. So what did we find? No one has all the answers.

"I tell parents and kids: Listen, I have no idea what Im talking about right now. And I know you have no idea what Im talking about right now," said Team USA and Duke mens coach John Danowski, who has been on all sides of the parent-child-coach triangle. "If we can all agree that we have no idea, then at least we have a base to start from. At least we can say, All right, were all kind of clueless. Lets start from there."

Were here to help. Acknowledging that parenting is challenging and there are no definitive guidelines, US Lacrosse Magazine settled on five underlying principles that can help parents steer through the youth lacrosse experience. What follows are five things every lacrosse parent should know.

 

1. THERE IS NO POT OF GOLD AT THE END OF THE RECRUITING RAINBOW

Ruthie Lavelle, mother of five and president of the Maryland Youth Lacrosse Association, a volunteer-based recreational league of about 40,000 boys and girls ages 5 to 14, said parents have lost perspective in their decision-making because of recruiting, the process for which has been hastened remarkably in recent years. "What are parents chasing? Theyre chasing disappointment," Lavelle said. "They think theres a pot of gold, but theyre chasing dissatisfaction. Theyre crazed about it."

Parents vigorously pursue and make great sacrifices in time, finances and energy in a competitive quest, hoping to capture an athletic scholarship. The return on investment is not what you think.

"The current culture is suggesting, If you just get the right coach, and play in the right program, and play enough hours, you can be great. And you have to pay for it," Ginsburg said. "But the reality is if you do the math there are going to be many disappointed people."

As of today, there are 73 mens Division I programs, and 116 womens programs. For men, the NCAA maximum number of allowable scholarships is 12.6 over four years. For women, its 12. Estimates suggest roughly half of these programs are fully funded; some schools have fewer than the allotted total, while Ivy League and service academies do not offer athletic scholarships.

These scholarships most often are divided among players. Charlotte Hounds coach Jim Stagnitta joked: "I can think of a handful guys who got full rides, and most of them are named Powell."

Said former Virginia mens coach Dom Starsia: "If you take our Tewaaraton Award winners Matt Ward, Chris Rotelli and Steele Stanwick and added them all together, it might equal a little more than one full scholarship."

Said former Team USA and current Georgetown womens coach Ricky Fried: "Theres a misconception of the full ride. Theyre just not out there."

Any high school athlete has a 6-percent chance of playing college varsity sports in any division and 3.7-percent chance in Division I, according to a recent Wall Street Journal article.

"What happens when an athlete has put all his eggs in one basket? It creates a risk of imbalance," Ginsburg said.

 

"IF WE CAN ALL AGREE THAT WE HAVE NO IDEA, THEN AT LEAST WE HAVE A BASE TO START FROM. AT LEAST WE CAN SAY, ALL RIGHT, WERE ALL KIND OF CLUELESS. LETS START FROM THERE." - JOHN DANOWSKI


2. THE RULES OF THE GAME AND WHY THEY EXIST

Lacrosse has been called the fastest sport on two feet, and the fastest-growing sport in the country. The result? With an increasing number of new people being introduced to the fast-paced game for the first time, theres uncertainty about the rules that govern the game, and why theyre in place. Sometimes, this can be frustrating and lead to unsportsmanlike behavior most notably vocal displeasure from parents on the sidelines.

Chase Howse, former US Lacrosse Youth Rules Committee chair, spent 35 years playing lacrosse and the last 30 officiating the game. His message to parents: "Take whatever time and steps you feel necessary to learn the rules before your son or daughter steps on the field. Is he or she learning from his coaches during practice? Or is it from watching a bunch of fouls being called during a game often accompanied by howls of displeasure from coaches and fans?"

US Lacrosse, in conjunction with its Sports Science and Safety Committee, in 2012 released the Youth Rules and Best Practices Guidebooks. As part of the organizations effort to develop consistent national rules based on the physical, cognitive and psychological development stages of children, US Lacrosse developed these gender-specific guidebooks to help explain the rules and the rationale behind them. The three golden principles: safe, fun and fair.

A reminder from Cathy Russo, US Lacrosse Girls Youth Rules Interpretation chair: "Our No. 1 priority is always to keep the players safe."

The guidebooks along with uslacrosse.org provide a tremendous foundation from which to learn about the game.

Beyond reading the rulebook, former US Lacrosse officials and education manager Lucia Perfetti Clark said, "The best way to learn the game is to get out there and do it; some of the best officials are parents." Russo and Clark suggested attending an officials/umpires training course or rules interpretation session, which are often offered through US Lacrosse chapters or affiliated youth organizations.

These sessions can help clarify the most misunderstood rules of each genders game which, it should be noted, are significantly different.

On the boys side, the least understood rules revolve around contact, and theres varying amounts of legal contact allowed at every level of the game. At higher levels, the loose ball push versus push with possession leads to confusion. On the girls side, shooting space violations and three-second held ball calls are most bewildering.

"In both games, even if a call goes against your team or kid, be happy when officials make calls for safety," Perfetti Clark said.

"And remember, were all part of the same team," Howse said. "Were all in this together. Were all responsible for creating a positive environment, and we share a big responsibility for imparting a solid sense of the culture of our game to the kids that learn to play and love."


3. THE HAZARDS OF SPORT SPECIALIZATION

Dom Starsia developed a reputation. He got cold calls from coaches and players across the country suggesting their linebacker or point guard might make a great lacrosse player. Starsia, who played football and lacrosse at Brown, is an advocate of multi-sport participation, in an era where media hype is driving parents in the direction of sport specialization.

"As the game spreads and theres more press coverage and more popularity and more opportunities to profit, youre seeing a greater emphasis on the belief that, The earlier the better, the more the better, of anything, of any sport, of any academic endeavor," Ginsburg said. "But theres not really any definitive evidence that indicates specializing is going to lead to better performance."

Which is why Starsia went after players like Chris LaPierre, a former Shawnee (N.J.) High football star who had played lacrosse in the summers for fun, and ended up as one of the nations most dynamic players. The Cavaliers short-stick defensive midfielder was named a second-team All-American in 2012.

"There is nothing you can be doing in lacrosse on your own in the fall that would be better for you than going to football or soccer practice every day," Starsia said. "You can go bang a ball against a wall all you want, but how do you become a better team player? By playing other team sports."

Becoming coachable, paying attention to detail, understanding the importance of preparation, working toward a goal, understanding your role and evaluating your performance from playing other sports are "such a huge advantage," Danowski said. "Playing club lacrosse once a week, I dont know if that its the same.

"You have one time to leave a legacy at your school. You have one time to take advantage of putting on a football helmet or playing soccer," Danowski continued. "When you look back at your school yearbook 40 years from now, would someone say, Yeah, that guy was a lacrosse head? Playing other sports helps develop a wealth of confidence that doesnt come from playing in a meaningless club game in November."

Ginsburg said sport specialization can lead to burnout, overuse injury and fragmentation of friendships. Conversely, participating in multiple sports also helps children develop muscularly, in what four-time U.S. womens national team player Danielle Gallagher, the founder of the Long Island Liberty lacrosse club, called "a cross-training theory."

Fried added sport specialization leads to a general lack of "being a kid... Creativity starts to fade away."

 

4. HOW TO BE A GOOD CONSUMER OF YOUR CHILDS LACROSSE EXPERIENCE

Determining the appropriate level for engagement in your childs experience is tricky, and its often age-dependent. But at any level, its important for parents to be good consumers. The best way to do so: Ask respectful but pointed questions of your child, of programs and teams youre considering, and of objective third parties. Related, do your homework and research as much as possible. Dont sit back and wait to learn these things after the fact; actively seek out information.

"This is going to sound really stupid simple," Johns Hopkins womens lacrosse coach Janine Tucker said. "It truly is about communicating with your child."

How well do you know your son or daughter? What is your child capable of athletically? When are they happiest? Whats most important to your child? What does your child actually want to do?

"Communication is critical, but its also paying attention to the signs, listening to coaches and parents who have interaction with out children, getting a sense from them about how our kids enjoy the sport," Ginsburg said. "Do they enjoy it? Are they excited and energetic? Are we seeing them complaining about going to practice?"

What is the age-appropriate level for my child? How competitive are the various levels of play recreation programs, travel teams, tournaments and club programs? What are the time commitments for each? Several coaches suggested playing at a level where you can learn but contribute.

What is a coachs philosophy? Is the coach certified? Have they had a background check? What are their experiences and background?

How stable is this program? What is a programs philosophy? How many players are on each team? Are there multiple teams within each program? Do kids get equal playing time? The set-up of a program will entirely determine a childs experience for a season.

"Stability of the organization and coaching are two of the most important factors," Lavelle said. "If its a well-managed league or program, that should first or foremost be a priority."

Are the officials trained and certified? Do they go to training every year? Will the games, tournaments and events have at least two officials at every game? Are safety precautions in place?

How many games/practices in one day, or one weekend, will a team or event require? Are there trainers on site? Will the teams stay in air-conditioned dorms?

And lastly: How much does all this cost? What is financially feasible for your family? The cumulative cost of playing for a club team and participating in recruiting tournaments can quickly exceed $10,000, especially with programs starting at such young ages. To what end is this money being spent?

Ginsburg suggests evaluating these types of questions on a seasonal basis. He also says having a non-invested third-party can help provide feedback or perspective.

"Its really important that parents have objective adult allies who can help give a sense of perspective," Ginsburg said. "To have an adult someone with nothing invested in giving you feedback say this kind of experience would be valuable for your kid is helpful. We need that kind of additional, objective feedback that we respect."

Sure, thats a lot of questions to ask. But if you havent considered them or dont know the answer to them you havent done your homework. Approach it like any other significant investment you make.

 

5. HOW YOUR BEHAVIOR AFFECTS THAT EXPERIENCE

Parents are equally as important to a childs positive lacrosse experience as the coach of the team, or the league they play in. Attend games, but be supportive and not overbearing. Positive reinforcement encourages learning and fun. Research has shown that a ratio of five positive statements compliments and positive recognition for each negative statement criticisms and corrections is ideal for helping young athletes do their best.

But too much external praise can hinder the maturation process. "One-third of my speaking engagements are to businesses. Managers say young workers dont know what to do unless someone else tells them," said Madeline Levine, a psychologist and the co-founder of Challenge Success, a project born at the Stanford School of Education. "They need to be told every day that theyre doing well instead of once a year."

Negative parental behavior also can have an adverse effect on the recruitment of a child. High school lacrosse players far outnumber opportunities available. Stagnitta, a former Division I coach at Rutgers and Division III coach at Washington & Lee, said college coaches "look for reasons not to recruit guys."

The negative behavior parents engage in thats most alarming to coaches on the recruiting circuit: unsportsmanlike sideline conduct.

"Coaches are always aware of parents behavior on the sidelines," Stagnitta said. "Its one of the first questions they ask. Youre sitting there and you see parents doing that, and you know its a four-year hitch. Theres enough guys out there, the character of the parents and the personality and how they conduct themselves and how they interact with the coaches and how they act on the sidelines, in a lot of ways, is going to carry as much weight as the player. All things being equal, youre going to go with the kid who has the most character as a family."

Said Fried: "On the sidelines, how are parents talking to their daughter, or the other players? We want parents who are supporting their kid and their team. What about the way theyre interacting with officials? Are they talking to other people, or are they off to the side by themselves? After the game, are the parents going over stats or what their kid did individually? Those behaviors are the most recognizable."

Its about balance. Its about positive but not constant reinforcement. And its not about you. Its about your child.

 
 
-Matt Forman from US Lacrosse Magazine

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