Here is the good news, If your daughter really wants to play in college she is absolutely in the right sport. Once you get outside the top 15 D1 teams or so the talent really falls off and when you get down to teams ranked about #100 its like watching LI PAL. Many teams are almost glorified walk ones especially in low D1 D2 plus new schools are adding the sport every year and there just aren't enough quality kids to fill out the rosters. My kid had a great ride at a D3 school and she wasn't even a starter on her LI HS team. So save some of that money on privates, get a tutor, and then send them to a school that they want to go to and just let her play | 
