I can tell you it happens and it's not unique to NJ. Top players will always seek top teams that will give them the opportunity to play in top brackets. For instance, players from PA playing with LI teams (Express and 91). Imagine that commute. But can you and I really claim we wouldn't do the same for our sons?
Your are right on that with commute and doing whatever it take for your son. We are on LI and was invited to a philly team that is the tops in my kids age and coaching and we are doing it. It will be a ton in the car but a sacrifice and a good lesson for my boy on wanting something. Anyone else do this type of commute? you're experience? Thanks