Unless the coach is abusing your son you have zero reason to talk with him and even if so, the AD is the proper channel. No coach is going to force an 8th or 9th grader to play on varsity if he or his parents don't want him to, and if he does he should not be in coaching. Save your wind. The parents know who the crazies ones are and the coaches certainly do to and we all laugh at you--doing your kids more harm then good.
So, how exactly do you let a coach know if you want your 8th grader to play or not play on Varsity if (according to BOTC) you have zero reason for a parent to talk to your coach. Is it OK to answer a call if the the coach calls you?
In order to form a relationship with a HS coach, you get your son involved with the coaches off season workouts, if a coach likes what he sees he will invite and speak with the parent. and a conversation will organically happen.
if the younger player is varsity worthy the hs boys will also know and include him on emails and such. but that is all gone now becasaue isnt there a stupid 3 day "tryout" period for MS players
