If there is a Dad coaching anywhere in the club then things will not be even or fair. Some times the trick is the Dad will coach another team and then be taken care of by the Dad coaching the team his sons on. I also think people are not giving these college scouts any credit? If your son is D1 they will find him even if he plays for the team that comes in 3rd or 4th place at these tournaments, just make sure he is starting/playing a lot. They will find your son