You are full of it... They Encourage it constantly. I go to one of the MIAA private schools and and if what you say is true, very few boys and girls would be held back. It is an epidemic at these schools. And MOST not ALL have athletics on their mind. These holdbacks might not be head of class but most would be right there with the majority of children. Most want their child to be ahead not equal. Of course ask most of them and they give the same reason you did.

And most here are responding to youth lacrosse for children under 15 and playing down due to holdbacks. It is fine with you holding your child back for your reasons. But that doesnt give you a select advantage over all the other CHILDREN in youth athletics outside of school. School teams are what they are but your child shouldn't get an advantage over the rest of children in the area. No wonder some people who don't go to private schools have a disdain for us. You want you child to have privileges that the rest don't have.... Maybe if you didn't want a special advantage for your child everyone else would stay out of your damn business.