My guess is she was saying the pressure is there at all levels. Her friends were D1 level and husband either D2 or D3. Her point is that if it’s not your child’s goal and dream to play in college then the added pressure from adults can be a bit overwhelming. The suicides by college athletes recently proves that point. Let the kids decide at what level they want to play and work to reach. Everyone wants to be their best and win but that isn’t always enough to enjoy the sport enough to continue to play. Playing at a high level requires a lot of discipline, commitment, time, sacrifices and most importantly love for the game. There is no reason to act childish on here. The same people you talk bad about of here could be the same person you enjoy seeing on the sidelines and I’m sure you all would act this way face to face.
