Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Keep defending the holdback scenario. Of course you want people to stop talking about it, as it’s no big deal once kids get to high school. So, all you holdback
Parents just admit the unfair advantages of the holdback situation, and say you think it should change at the youth level. I don’t think most hold backs stayed back due to academics. So stop defending the holdback scenario as no big deal!

look worry about your kid. Do what you think is best for your kid, if I hold back my kid for 2 years, thats my business, and my $$ for school, it has no impact on you. If you think that my kid is athletically benefitting for being older, then maybe, if it matters that much to you, you should hold your kid back.
in teh end, take care of your kid, do what YOU think is best for THEM, and stop whinning, because you made a decision knowing the factors that were and still are out there..

Do you explain to your kid that he is just slower academically then normal kids his age or just not as good at sports as the kids his age? How does that work? And when he loses to my kid, do you make other excuses or ask if he wants to hold back until he can be good enough?

Not a dad of a holdback kid. But Really? Putting down a parent decision to hold back a kid due to academic development? You think that’s an easy choice for a parent?

My son is not holdback genius, but he would certainly question why he was no longer in the same class as his friends at school and why he is repeating the same curriculum with lil guys. I know people like to avoid that part of the equation. But the conversation has to happen. So what do you tell them? Do you applaud there Academic success for being able to succeed at the same grade twice. Do you put the honor roll sticker next to the club lax sticker? Or is that part ignored for the Glory of the Lax Gods.

Here is your answer and I am sure you will have another snarky response, but what the heck.

For whatever reason, when they do reclass, it usually happens at the same time as switching to a private school with mostly a new set of friends, some of which are in the exact same reclass circumstance that their new and old friends may or may not know about or care about. So any embarrassment potentially incurred is not nearly what you make it seem.

I am sure the convo with the kid is a mix of physical and academic reasoning that is likely supported by some medical and educational specialists that add well reasoned cases to validate the decision. I am sure everyone is onboard and they then move on.

The reality of it all is that hopefully, and I’d bet most often, the reasons are well intended to help that kid develop into a healthy, confident, and one day independent young person. This despite what you may believe or how it may put your kid on an uneven “age” playing field.

And no, I don’t have a reclass or holdback kid. But certainly do believe that if someone does, they have a good reason aside from sport. So stop trashing them as I am sure they made the decision with heavy thought, eyes wide open, and all onboard.

I wonder how many of the kids bust out in tears and tell the parents how embarrassing this is going to be? My son would be mortified. He would think he was a slow poke physically and mentally.