Originally Posted by Anonymous
-- "September 1st is almost here and I assure you that many parents will be getting a big wake up call that little Suzy isn’t as good as her parents think she is. Especially with so many 5th year transfers in the portal that have been picked up. I think the 23’s are in for a rude awakening!!" --


I agree with the above post. Not because I am a hater or because I want people to be disappointed, simply because I have seen it all before. There are parents who complain about every tryout, every "list", every All-Star team etc... These are the parents that blame everything under the sun when other players are recognized ahead other daughter. These same parents will now complain about the recruiting process, they will blame politics, their club director, their HS coach and everything else as to why their daughter is not committing right away to a "top program/school". They will make excuses and attempt to tear down the players who do commit to the top programs/schools in the first moth or so. We have heard it before and we will hear it again "she will never see the field", "that's a real head scratcher", "her father is connected", "we are putting academics first" etc....

I love when I hear things like "Maryland is not on her list" as if she is on Marylands list....

These are the same type of people who will then try to spin whatever their daughter does as "the best" possible choice/decision all the while knocking the choices made by others. Newsflash, trying to tear down others in an effort to elevate yourself/your daughter and or her choice is not a good look.

I have heard it in person and I have read it on this site... when a girl commits to Maryland, UNC, Syracuse etc... it's "she will major in lacrosse" or "she will never see the field", "my daughter does not want to be a lacrosse coach"...

September first is when parents and players find out just where they stand in relation to other players. The top players will receive multiple offers from some of the top college programs. There are many great schools that have women's lacrosse, but the reality is that the majority of the top players receive offers from and choose to attend one of those top programs.

Two older kids found great fits both at great schools with great lacrosse programs. One was considered a "top recruit" and had multiple offers from top 5 caliber programs as well as top 10 academic schools, the other was not that caliber but is at what I consider to be a great school (not Ivy, Stanford, Duke, ND, NU etc...) but a great school none the less. One (the one who was a top recruit) has started / played in every game on a Top 10 caliber team, the other has yet to see the field at a Top 20 caliber team. One was able to commit early the other had to go through the process (and it was long and at times stressful) but it all worked out. Both are very happy with where they are at.

I wish everyone well but... to the haters who knock players, schools, programs, coaches, clubs etc... to those who cry politics every time their daughter is not recognized we will see on September 1st and in the weeks to come how players stack up.

There will be surprises that go both ways.

Both comments above couldn't be more true! As a parent who has also been through it 2x (with a daughter and a son), I feel like I have a decent handle on what will happen for my younger 2023 daughter come Sept 1st. However, having been through it twice before, I also know there will be many surprises. There always are (good and bad). This year also has the residual effects of covid. For those parents and players getting ready to go through it the first time, all I have to say is be open to ALL options! Both of my older kids ended up at schools that weren't originally on "their list" and not because they weren't good programs or schools, but because most kids consider the same list of schools. My older kids are very good players. Both had made the UA AA underclass teams a couple of years. Both played varsity for high schools in top lacrosse conferences and played for clubs with very good reputations. But it was still a process that was stressful at times and much longer than both my kids hoped. However, they ended up at schools that were the perfect match for them. If they had received immediate offers without investigating other schools, I don't know that it would've worked out as well overall for them. My son ended up at a mid-D1 program and my daughter at a Top-D2 program (she did receive D1 offers but not at schools she was interested in otherwise). Both with very good academics and a team culture and coach fit that is perfect for them. Both in areas of the country they wanted to attend school in. And both that offered the majors they were interested in. They love playing lacrosse again which wasn't the case at the end of their high school years. EVERY kid will have their own personal process and it isn't anyone's place to judge their process or their results. I know several excellent youth lacrosse players who chose to play club in college in the end. And I also know many top youth players who committed to play in college but ended up quitting lacrosse midway through their college years. Good luck to everyone's player and parents as you start the recruiting process in a couple of days!