I've said this for years with two older boys who play, it's a grade-based sport. If you don't like it, pick something else, like soccer or baseball. But stop with all of the "holdback" nonsense. I'm sure that back in kindergarten when they decided Johnny wasn't ready, developmentally or emotionally, they were envisioning him playing lacrosse, and that him being 6-8 months older than some of the kids in his class would chart his future in the sport.