Here is the sad reality. Throw out the holdback talk. Some of your kids are smaller, slower, less athletic and can’t catch and throw. Many of your kids are scared and don’t play physical. Can’t wait till your kids get to high school and you freshmen gets wrecked by a Senior. Go cry on a message board about kids being bigger stronger and faster and how life is so unfair.
Not the words I’d use, but totally agree. So many parents on my sons team cry about holdbacks and I don’t get it. Honestly, I don’t understand why any non-school sport, team, league is based on grade instead of age, but who cares...that’s the way it is! If you don’t like it, stick to rec and/or find another sport.