Has anybody taken into account the kids' feelings in this? I've watched my son at tournaments. He absolutely loves the kids he plays with, enjoys travelling to different places and most of the stuff that comes along with playing on an elite team. As it turns out, there are actual parents whose children compete at a high level who care about their children and their well being. And I know this doesn't fit your narrative of overbearing parents living their dreams out through their children, but my spouse and I actually see our son having a great experience and appreciate the opportunity he has.

Any chance you are projecting YOUR feelings onto other people (to include the actual participants) to further the point you're trying to make?