I am not concerned with your respect. I think you are out of line talking about other people's children. I think a fine line is being crossed about fact vs perception. You're judgment is very cloudy! You are sort of getting it....the riding on the bus scenario was not a choice. That is example someone being repressed for nothing other than the color of their skin. meaning they did not have a choice. So my point is.. you make the choice to put your child on a team...knowing there are older kids! Why are you complaining?
