You program building know it all gurus are hilarious . There is no one right way to build a program . Sometimes it just takes several well intentioned patents at the youth level to get kids involved . Sometimes it's a very good varsity coach . Sometimes it's a history of success that just builds on itself. I also find your delusional attitude about what makes a team great comical . In a perfect world all kids on a team would play equal time , score the same amount of goals etc but it's just not realistic . The best college teams have 2-3 girls that do most of the scoring and those kids play a selfish style game .They put their head down and run to goal .Its ugly but effective .