I have several boys on top collegiate (D1 and D3) and high school teams. Most club coaches and owners are great guys who really have the kids interests at heart. Find a club coach and players who fit your family's personality. If your son is that good he will be "discovered", there will be a feeding frenzy and he'll commit to a good school. Its that simple. the film doesn't lie. Don't worry so much about kissing up to the club coach. Just make sure your kid is respectful, courteous and works hard and everything will work out. Don't even worry about college lacrosse, get paid (or get into a great school) if you can and enjoy college. There's little money in lacrosse: its a hobby.