For our ER, it was a rather tough decision. I mean, what does a 14 year old 9th grader know if that is what he wants? Surely he wants to play in college. A D1 program was preferable to him. He was pretty advanced academically and displayed a rather independent nature early on so we were apprehensive but not nail biting. I think the thing that pushed us as a family over the edge was how fast the recruiting classes were filling up. Had to kind of sh*t or get off of the pot.

We made a deal with him. Chose the most academically rewarding institution that was interested in him and we would support his decision. True; kids are attracted to the big name schools with vibrant media coverage and larger than life college experiences, yet we were happy our kid decided to pursue the academic route and chose a very coveted spot in a great 8 school. That certainly put more pressure on him to want and need to achieve academically, but if the lax carrot is the key to a great school; then why not let him try and meet those requirements?

So.... ER is a challenge on many levels. If a kid gets sucked into the recruiting vortex; it's a parent's responsibility to help him cull out the best program for him that will enable him to pursue his dreams and become successful in life. Else; take lax out of the equation and let them make their way the old fashioned way on merit and grit. We were fortunate that our ER thus far has not been overwhelmed by the process or his decision.