Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Coach situation: Player A not getting much playing time, needs to work on a few things. Pays HS coach for private lessons - gets better / maybe doesn't get better - gets more playing time. Player B sees Player A pay for lessons and play more, now Player B pays for lessons, etc. Did the kids really get better or is the coach just making it appear that way to attract more business? He/she controls cause and effect.

Tutor situation: Student A struggling in class, needs some help. Pays HS teacher for private tutoring, grades improve (either legitimately in an objective subject or with help in a subjective one). Student B sees Student A's grades improve and now pays teacher for tutoring, etc. Did the students just need some one-on-one time or is the teacher holding back in class to attract more business? Again, teacher has all the controil.

Whether either case is above board or not, there is clearly an opportunity for abuse and the perception of favoritism exists.



Totally agree!!! There is no difference. The conflicts for a math teacher and a student are exactly the same for a coach and a player. If it's been addressed for the math teacher it should be addressed for the coach.


I don't know if the conflicts are the same, but if you train a kid in a sport and he/she makes a team, it is looked upon as immoral because that usually means that a possibly deserving kid is getting dropped. If a teacher tutors a kid and he/she gets better grades, it doesn't effect the other kids in the class. Another kid isn't getting bumped from the Varsity Math class to JV.

The conflict is worse. When your kid is wait listed to the school she wants to go to and the kid who got tutored by the teacher got in because she got a better grade in her math class the question will get asked.


If that happens, the only one to blame is yourself. If your kid didn't get a good enough grade, that's your fault. Maybe you should have gotten your own tutor. It isn't the fault of another parent who sought out help for their child. These are 2 totally different situations. A student does not get dropped from a class because another student is doing better or has a relationship with a teacher. Your opportunity is not denied. But it can happen in the world of lacrosse where there are limited spots and opportunities.


What is it that you do not understand?

If a teacher or a coach is running a for profit business and they coerce the kids (parents) that they teach or coach into paying for their service it is wrong.