Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Originally Posted by Anonymous
Doesn't really matter. That team is not very good.

It doesn't matter what the season is. The HS team should always come before the club team.


That team was mostly Chaminade boys. Maybe honoring your committment doesn't matter at Chaminade.


1. Why do you have an issue with that?
2. How does that impact you or your family?
3. Why does it bother you what people do with their money, time and children?


Not the person quoted, but here is its impact on my son:

1) When the whole team is not at a given tournament, it affects the team's performance. Not least of which is to potentially leave the team without its goalie.
2) When the team does not perform well, college coaches do not show up or do not focus on my son's team.
3) When the coaches don't show up or focus, my son doesn't get as much of an opportunity to be seen.

Why does it bother me that people will back out of their commitment to a team, because I spent money (as well as 24 other families) on the premise of the team expressing a certain level of quality and therefore opportunity for my son to be seen. So the decision made by the parents affected my son not just their son.

I know we are in this whatever is best for my son/daughter world, but I was always raised to believe that if you joined a team you were committed to fully participate on that team (practices and tournaments). The tournament schedule was know well in advance by all parents and athletes and the Chaminade games came up out of the blue. All of the parents had signed up for the tournaments leaving every other player under the impression that they would show up.



1. There is rarely a time every single player shows up for a summer tournament. Coaches, parents and players know this and great players never rely on other players to "make the team look good". They step it up and play harder.

2. When the team doesn't play well, it's nobody's fault but the team who played. Again, that just means that the players who were there need to step it up and play harder.

3. A player who steps it up and plays hard will be noticed by coaches. It won't matter whether their team won or lost games in a tournament.

Placing blame on things you can't control only makes you look petty. If you want your son to be noticed, encourage him to focus on HIS strengths and HIS weaknesses. Lead by example. You're sending a message to your son that someone else has power over his fate. Nobody controls how well your son plays but HIMSELF. I have seen tournaments where the really great players on a team were purposely asked not to play by their coach, and the other kids who were good/very good players had to step it up. Guess what? They did it. Do you know why? Because they had the fortitude to step it up and dig deep and work their butts off.