Stop complaining about hold backs. What kills a team is daddyball. Dads with sons on their team always skews towards their kid, most subconsciously. This will kill a team faster than anything. After a kid is on a team and the parents pay the fee its to late. Most parents who speak up get branded for complaining. No one wins, everyone loses.

Directors: don't get conned into letting this happen. Even when you know the dads, make it a club rule. The rest of the team will think you and your club will be stronger for it.