You can talk about all the speaking up that you want but let's be realistic on how the system works. Let's imagine that your son is good enough that he should be able to play in college. You have external sources telling you this who have coached or played at that level.

You research the list of clubs in the DMV/Baltimore area for the best fit if you are willing to travel - meaning continued development as well as putting your son on the field at the correct moment. It turns out that you have to put up with some morally questionable behavior for this potential college coach stage. You must decide where that line is and you can still teach your son the morality of the decisions being made. Is one weekend of sitting on the bench worth denying your son the opportunity?

Are you telling me that you have never choked down a question of morality at some point in your life - family, work, school? If you have never let your boss or client get away with something that you would never allow for yourself/son?

If you are so pure, then we need your name for sainthood and to hold up for ourselves.