Its not a YJ thing its a life thing. Unfortunately its reality and we have to find our way to navigate through it. Just saying there is a choice here. I have had to make that choice for myself and my kids in the past so it is not just words. There are ways and lessons to be learned handling it both ways. Either join the group and swallow your pride as many do OR work hard enough to make the group realize they may have been wrong. Just saying to pick one. Preferably the second because imagine the feeling she will have when she overcomes the prejudice and excels!! Bashing the system at your school/club...however justified...doesn't get the results you want. The hard work avenue at least gets great results even if the group doesn't accept her. She will have gained something valuable (determination, improved skills, work habits and self respect)in spite of them which is a good byproduct. Hope it helps. BTW...many clubs would love a kid who is a hard worker!
